What Makes You Attractive

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Glossy lips and sexy dresses will inspire men to cross a crowded room. But when it comes to triggering that hit-by-a-truck feeling, less obvious factors are at play here. Although people might not even realize it, they have several deep-seated fears about commitment that may stop them from pursuing someone else. And on what may be a subconscious level, they’re also instantly attracted to personality traits that put those fears at ease.

You already possess the tantalizing traits and the trick is just knowing how to play them when you come face to face with a potential partner. Okay, so you’ve met an interesting guy. At this point some women want to shower him with all the attention because that’s how they automatically treat the people they like. But that can make a guy feel pressured, and feeling that they are being forced into something is what they’ll worry most. You could be like one of those women vying for the bachelor’s attention and pulling off crazy stunts just to get a rose before the night ends.

The smarter move would actually be not to act too impressed, well, at least not immediately. Refusing to be wowed easily will send the message that not only are you not pressuring him, but you may even be slightly out of reach. Because the opposite sex seems to be hardwired into being competitive, they need to feel like they’re the ones who are making the choice to approach you and working toward winning you over to their side. You need to give them space to do exactly that. Instead of focusing on just one man, pay just as much attention to the others around you. Be fair and show the others the same courtesy you’re showing the one you somewhat are attracted to.

And when they talk about something that’s very impressive, resist the urge to go all out on the gushing. Oftentimes, many women will go about how amazing the experience must have been. Play it cool instead by maintaining a low-key tone and challenge him by asking him why he chose such experience. By doing this instead of going awestruck, you’ll trigger the basic instincts of being competitive.

And most importantly, be comfortable in your own skin. It doesn’t matter how drop-dead gorgeous you look tonight. If you’re not confident about and comfortable with your body, people can tell. If you move with confidence and focus on the little details around you, you’ll be catnip for others. Project your attention outward instead of inward. This helps you relax as well. And once you’re feeling more comfy, you can just be natural and show off your playful side. This kind of attitude shows him that you have a sense of humor. A woman who laughs easily is going to be a lot more pleasant. Plus, it shows the other person that you can reframe bad things in a positive light and laugh at them, instead of getting all worked up. Tease, be friendly, but yet, don’t come out too desperate.

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