Issues on Love and Relationship

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Back in school, your teacher would ask you to make a Venn diagram. You draw two circles that represented two different entities, and in that area where the circles merge, you write in the common characteristics. This was often used in Math (for sets and subsets) and in stories (for the protagonist versus the antagonist). You must’ve thought that this wasn’t really useful. Well, you can finally put that thought to rest because you can use that knowledge in your relationship now. And when you’ve noticed that you’ve been clashing and rubbing each other the wrong way, then maybe it’s time to make the diagram and see where the two of you can finally meet and compromise.

The Venn diagram is a sort of visual aid that helps you solve those spats you’ve had lately. You can do this by yourself, and at least you know have an image in your head that will serve as your guide when you try to fix things. But before you start, you also have to come to a decision. Is the relationship worth saving? Is your man worth keeping? If it’s a resounding yes, keep your temper in check and think about the good things the two of you share. Sometimes, you have to run the show and be the mature one. When you’re calm about the situation, you’re more likely to come out of it triumphant.

Listen to him when he airs out his issues, and try to keep calm when he says something you may not necessarily agree with. Let him finish when it’s his turn to talk, and when you get to air out your thoughts, you can address the things he’s mentioned. Some of the issues may not be resolved immediately, and if you need time for it, then you have to set aside time for it. There’s also no shame in seeking help elsewhere. When emotions are involved, it’ll be hard for the two of you to be objective. So, talk to your man and let him see the good will come out when you get the help you need.

As for the smaller issues, you can both come up with a middle-ground. The decisions have to come from both parties and no one should feel coerced into doing something they don’t want. If you have reservations, air them out and tell them where you’re coming from. Also, try to see things from the other side as well. There are always two sides to every story, and the victor is always the person who sees both of it.

Remember that you shouldn’t be ashamed when you run into problems. Every relationship needs help, and disagreements will come up when two people are together often enough. If you can pass through all the bumps on the road, you’ll have something that’s stronger than ever. Just think about how things will be in the end, and muster up the courage to see your relationship through, even when things won’t always be pleasant.

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