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A wallflower has different connotations. In our case, we look at a wallflower as a shy or reserved person. A shy person has less chances of making it in the world because they don’t apply their communication skills effectively. If you are a shy person, it’s time to come out of your shell. It is through proper communication that you get to know people and more importantly, people begin to notice you. There are various reasons for shyness, such as nurturing feelings of intimidation or not knowing what to say. Your feelings of intimidation may be imaginary. It is rare that people who have never met you will immediately want to bully or browbeat you. Your feelings may be indications of personality introversion and may have emanated from genetic traits or the environment. Try consulting a doctor and trace the causes for your shyness. Whatever the reason, shyness can be overcome. Start by meeting people and striking up a short conversation with them. If they don’t wish to talk, that’s fine. Don’t pursue it. There are many other people around that may be willing to talk with you, even for a short while. Here are some tips on opening up a conversation.
Be courteous and polite. Show your desire to have a pleasant short talk with them. You can start by complimenting them. They will listen to you because people usually like to hear nice things said about them. Be careful on your remarks. Saying her obesity brings out the beautiful colors in her dress might not be appreciated by the person even if you were trying to compliment her on her choice of dress. A compliment should not contain hidden innuendoes. Be careful when you give compliments. They might feel you are just giving them a “pick up” line or you want something from them. Give your compliments wholeheartedly. Demonstrate to the person that you really appreciate what you praise. A good compliment may be “I had to just tell you I like your shirt. Where did you get it?”.
Once the conversation starts up, try to find something that can serve as a bridge between the two of you. It may be a hobby, type of work, organizations they are members of, or other types of interests. There is a large variety of topics and hopefully, you will chance on a subject matter of common interest. The only limitation is your amount of curiosity. It may help if you mention your work and some of the things you enjoy doing. Don’t talk too much about yourself. People tend to lose interest when the conversation becomes an ego trip. Once you have a common subject, explore their interests. Find out their opinions and feelings on the subject. Focus on the similarities you share with the other person.
Show sincerity in your conversation. Be open and candid. Don’t feign interest on the subject matter. As the conversation progresses, your disinterest or limited knowledge will show and your partner will notice it. Don’t give asinine remarks. Be tactful and cognizant of the other person’s feelings and opinions. Listen carefully and understand what they are telling you. End the conversation in a gentle and courteous manner. Saying “I really enjoyed talking to you” and thanking them can be a joyful conclusion to a fruitful conversation. Practice slowly and build up your confidence.
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