Mothers! Put Up Your Boundaries!

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Most women have a very helpful nature. Mothers are exemplary models when it comes to doing everything for everyone, especially when it comes to their family. They will exert efforts to help the child and husband, in addition to doing a thousand other chores at the same time.  The family could become accustomed to that lifestyle and abuse the kindness and helpfulness extended by the mother.  Mothers should understand when help is honestly requested and when abuse comes into play. Overexerting  oneself can be very stressful even if it’s done in the name of care and love. There comes a time when mothers have to put their foot down and set aside some time for themselves to rest and take a breather. Identify what activities have to be completed in its entirety and other chores that can be done in a staggered manner. Try putting a limit on the amount of time you spend on daily activities. Here are some things you can consider putting limits on.

Set a time on checking your email. Email will come in anytime of the day. Some of the email may be junk while others may be relevant to you. Identify what relevant mail has to be attended to immediately and which can be relegated to another time. Segregate your mail based on the subject or sender.  When you open your mailbox, you will see the relevant items highlighted. Set a time limit and frequency for opening the mail. You could get carried away and spend endless hours responding to the emails. Putting a time limit keeps you aware and focused on your chores. Setting a frequency stops you from checking your mailbox  whenever you feel like it.  Identify what you would consider doing for others. This is part of maintaining your self-esteem. There may be work or requests that you should consider not doing at all. This could be work that can very well be done by the requestor but were asked for you to do because of your good nature of helping others. Refuse these types of requests and tell them gently to do the work themselves.

Take a regular checkup. Feeling fit is good but it is better to have a checkup to see how your health is shaping up. Weight, sugar and blood pressure are some of the things you normally take for granted if you are feeling well. A checkup will give you the correct readings on your health.  Time is of the essence. Time is a precious asset which you cannot recover once it’s gone. Take some lessons on time management and learn how to maximize the time. There may be instances when you might “waste” time like spending more time than needed in putting a child to sleep or talking to a family member longer than you planned. Think of the additional time spent as moments of joy and comfort. If you consume more quality time than you planned for, try adjusting your time on other chores. Never sacrifice quality time with your loved ones.

Finances should be budgeted. Resist overspending. Itemize your essentials and set aside money for the vital expenses. Save a portion of your money for emergencies. Don’t be persuaded by others to overextend your financial boundaries. Establish good spending habits and you will never be in a financial bind.

Be clear on what is vital to you and set limits on the other aspects. By setting limits, you will see you have enough resources to give to your loved one.

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